Divorce Shouldn't Be A Tug of War
Why Is a Positive Coparenting Relationship Important For Children?
Divorcing and separating parents can have a large impact on their children’s ability to cope with changes in the family and transition into healthy adjustment. Research proves that the strongest predictor of emotional and behavioral problems in children after divorce is exposure to high levels of conflict between parents. Parental conflict has deeper and greater consequences when the tug-of-war is hostile, antagonistic, poorly resolved and focused on matters pertaining to the kids. However, even when parents are “high conflict” there are ways they can develop cooperative or business-like relationships for the sake of their children.
Who Can Benefit?
Parents who are divorced, separated, or are in the process of separating may benefit from co-parenting consultations. Specific treatment goals vary depending on individual needs, but generally focus on reaching agreements on parenting time and child management, joint decision-making, communication, and other issues that create stress and conflict. Coparenting counseling can help resolve some of the anger or grief related to the ending of the relationship allowing the individuals to focus on parenting instead of the "unfinished business" of the past.
When parents create and maintain a strong parenting alliance after separation, children experience a secure base they can depend on while they grow up. Parents seek coparenting counseling at all stages of separation. Some come in before they separate in order to explore how best to navigate the separation in order to meet their children's needs. Others have been coparenting for awhile and want to strengthen their coparent alliance, increase healthy communication patterns, and joint decision-making.
Cost of Coparenting Counseling
Parties, attorneys, and courts should be aware that health insurances rarely pay for any aspect of co-parenting therapy. Exceptions may include cases in which a child (a) has an existing mental health diagnosis, and (b) co-parenting therapy can be shown to be medically necessary to address that need, and (c) the carrier will reimburse a 90846 code, (psychotherapy without client present) as part of treatment. Costs for co parenting therapy run $140 for the initial assessment; $130 per hour and $160 for ninety minutes with costs shared between the parties as apportioned by the court.
We recognize that other providers and practices take a different view and may attempt to bill co-parenting services to insurance. Unless the above criteria are met, those claims are subject to recoupment under “waste, fraud, and abuse” clauses. Rachel Achatz can review cases to make a final determination about potential insurance reimbursement, but parties should not expect insurance to cover this service. On the rare occasions when insurance will reimburse, parties should expect to cover a number of costs for consultation outside of reimbursable expenses including reports, email, testimony, consultation with attorneys, etc.
Other Post-Separation Services
New Ways For Families Skills Group
Parent Management Training